As practitioners in any field of care, or any point of authority, when people look up to us or listen to our opinion, we have a degree of influence. Sometimes this is recognised and at other times it’s not fully understood.
If you take a moment and think about all the people you’ve affected along your path, you’ll realise what impact you’ve made. Hopefully you can look back at it for the most part and feel that was it real, purposeful and empowering for others.
Everyday, in a multitude of ways, we have influence and the power to use our voices in any way we choose. I personally hope that for the most part I’ve been able in some way to shine a light in this world. To be able to offer insight, reflection, hope or encouragement to those who may need it in some small way. I know, and I’m aware that at times I may have missed the mark in being able to do so. Not everything is going to land. Some people will take things the wrong way. Some will invert my message. Some will attack or place blame. I’ve grown to understand that this is the way of the world, and all I can do is reach for the next thing that I can deliver that will hopefully be positive for others.
I’ve also grown to understand the importance of neutrality. I think this is something that is greatly misunderstood. Neutrality doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means delivering things to the public that serve them, versus what will overwhelm, bombard, distort, confuse or disempower an individual. Sometimes the message gets lost, because you didn’t “read the room” and assess whether an opinion or a point of view would only work against the empowerment of another individual.
From personal experiences, I can recall a time when someone close to me was constantly criticizing another individual in my life and because I was protective of them, I couldn’t see or receive the point of view of the opinion that was being hammered onto me. I felt cornered, provoked and trapped by it. There was a cognitive dissonance in my own mind, because of the loyalty I held to that individual versus the negativity that was being sprouted about them from someone else. It was as if the more people tried to have a go at them, the more I would push back, because it felt harmful versus helpful. It was only when that person with the strong opposing opinion was able to hold space for themselves and come to me in humility without agenda in that moment, and with respect to where I was at that time, that I was able to hear what they were trying to express in their message.
You cannot destroy someone’s framework of reality and hope to replace it with your own point of view if someone isn’t ready for that. If anything, placing someone in a place of chaos and confusion after a conversation probably does more damage than good. We sometimes think that the truth at any cost is better than a watered down, palatable message.
Is this kind of righteousness actually righteous?
Is this kind of healing, really helpful?
As I’ve gotten older I’ve had to learn the art of towing the line between what I want to say outright, versus the question of whether this will actually help the people I care about or that I’m responsible for. Again lessons learnt along the journey and on the job. And also, side note, I’m not saying this to criticize the way others do things. These are my thoughts and reflections.
“To thine own self be true.”
Always try to come from a place of love, respect for the intelligence of the individual, and the understanding that each person is their own sovereign being, working out their understanding of reality as they go along. And that this understanding is inevitably going to change, grow and evolve with time, and that if it doesn’t and it doesn’t match your viewpoint, or you believe that it conflicts against your own, then that’s ok too.
Ask yourself, “has what I’ve offered them allowed them peace, clarity and empowerment, or put them in a place of confusion, conflict and despair?” “Was the information I gave them warranted and something they could palette?” “Or was it laced with my own fears, doubts and distrust?” And even if I am right, or I believe that I’m right, what good is that to the other person if I’ve left them in a state of cognitive dissonance, where they won’t be able to integrate this information in a healthy and safe way.
Not everything can be avoided. Life will thrown curveballs, and rude awakenings. Its not always our job to play judge and jury, but to consider our influence and how best to serve others with our insights, so that they can grow to be adaptive and healthy individuals, capable of finding their own answers, and capable of drawing upon the strength and the truth that they find within themselves.
Maurice Katting is a Shamanic Healer and Fibre Artist based in Melbourne Australia
You can connect with him at http://mauricekatting.com for information on one to one sessions, in a range of modalities, as well as purchase of his mandalas and artworks
So many people I speak to struggle with the idea of “how can I exist within the current paradigm and bring more of the fullness of who I am to the table” without this being watered down, out of the fear of how this extended sense of expression will be received. What I understand now is that where there are no way-showers that have walked your specific path before you, it means that YOU become that new embodiment of the representation you wish to see in the world. YOU are the prototype and the proof that it can exist.
For two hours Maurice will hold a healing space and take you through an intuitive process of looking into your energetic field in a creative and visual way. This is a self-healing process and will give you the tools to be your own healer for yourself. By drawing the energetic template of the body we can discover emotional, mental and energetic blocks that are not necessarily in our awareness. We can also clear, hooks, cords, entities, attachments and anything else that goes bump in the night. This exercise can potentially help uncover themes and bindings that relate to past lives. It’s always amazing and relevant to what spirit guides you to uncover in your drawing. This practice is not traditional spirit art but more akin to energetic surgery through drawing and meditation. You can actually change your blueprint and make adjustments through your creativity and your pen and paper.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Some appreciated feedback I’m sharing . Mind you this session was by phone 📲 . Pls know we are still in operation and taking all measures to ensure a sanitized working environment. But Skypes / Zooms / phone sessions have and will continue to be in operation at The Disconnect Healing Space. Drop in or dial in, we do the work. Thank you 🙏🏻 this has been your PSA . .
Identity. Where do you find it? How does it function in your life? Do you feel your sense of who you are within connection with others? Is that the truest expression of it? Are all the cycles we go through, the beginning, middle and ending of the connections we form, and each version of ourselves we find ourselves playing and portraying in them, the realest and the truest?⠀
Do I have to be contrived and performed in order to see and understand when I’m being real and authentic? Can my lack of self awareness at times also be authentic if I don’t fully know who I am? Because if I’m just being myself, or if I think I’m being myself, then isn’t this then the authentic me? Whether I realize it isn’t or I don’t? Until I become the next version of me that I feel I need to portray myself as, in that space and time.⠀
Who are we to say what’s real or not in someone’s personality? We may be able to recognize the conflict within a person that contributes to the portrayal they have of themselves, and yet for them and the space they are in, this is the truest form of their expression and where they feel comfortable in identifying themselves. ⠀
Be gentle with yourself as you unravel, when you don’t yet understand but can feel yourself changing. No one is locked into any set representation of themselves. ⠀
Through silence and reflection we are able to tune in to information and understanding that goes beyond the limitations of the ideas we’ve already conceived. ⠀
Sometimes we must step outside of ourselves and the noise of the world around us, the opinions, the drama, the chaos and clutter in our circle, so that we can access these silent moments. Where we are left alone with our thoughts and the space between our thoughts. We also have to be willing to give ourselves that opportunity to be with the space between our thoughts, because the world around us and the people in it might not necessarily enable that space, until we are drawn to seek it. Then we can receive space for clarity, emptiness of mind, and detach from concerns that may not necessarily feel representative of us, even though they create a lot of “story” with the people around us. Whether this is story in the home, the neighborhood, the wider community or a national / global level. ⠀
When we create space we can access our own knowledge and knowledge from source, which is a different type of authority. When we on some level feel that the authority figures around us may not necessarily hold all the answers for us, it’s not because they are lacking in their own understandings, but it’s because there are certain understandings that we will seek to know for ourselves first hand, in the development of our minds and thoughts. And through seeking to understand things in our own way. ⠀