Am I honouring myself?

A loss of power can be something that we don’t even recognise. But feeling that loss of control can lead us into a frenetic state, where we scramble to bring a sense of order back into our lives via external force. This is outward justification of the loss we are feeling within ourselves when our sense of self honour has become confused or misdirected. As we scramble to get that feeling of protection love or safety back in our being, we can quite easily flip into the dualistic state, of assessing the world around us in simplified terms; good or bad, right or wrong, noble or evil, when the truth is it’s never really this clean cut. We go into “cleaning house” mode as a way of moving our stagnant energy, and attempting to regain our sense of empowerment. Yet sometimes in this state of exalted self cheer leading, we miss the point, and we oversimplify or dramatize the situation, when really we just need to go within ourselves and ask the question; “am I honouring myself?”

We try to make “clean cuts” when we have confusion over the unresolved feelings we’ve experienced that bring up feelings of pain, lack of self love or honour. Our society tends to support this very simplistic and black and white way of trying to empower itself. It’s kind of the “Ricki Lake” method. You know? Like the guy couldn’t commit, he was always at work, girl don’t settle, go out and get yourself a new outfit. Bam! You’re empowered. And yes in a sense you’ve had a shift, you’ve recognised something wasn’t working and you feel reenergised. But what happens when you go and recreate the exact same situation?

Is it always about villains? Villainy? Yes you can look at everybody and make lists of pros and cons about them, but so what? They are who they are. Does it work for you or not? And if so, to what degree? When you interact with someone where do you feel you’re not honouring yourself? Can you change that aspect? And is it enough to reframe your concept of the exchange you’ve created with that person and to put it in a different light? Or does it mean it can’t be resolved?

How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel good about yourself when you’re spending time with others for the most part? Is it just one small aspect that makes it too much of a compromise? And if so, how can you change the dynamic? How can you leave it so everyone is honoured?

We know when we are selling ourselves short. We can deny it, but underneath that we can feel the pain of lack of self honour. But directing anger at those who are blissfully unaware of our pain won’t resolve the issue. Often our sense of self honour is tied in with our value system. But here’s the tricky part, what if our value systems are completely different? Who’s right and who’s wrong? Does it make someone else wrong if we feel we’re right? Or does it just mean they perceive things in a different way?

In every exchange, we can assess how much of ourselves we give, dependent on how much honour we feel is brought to the table by each party. And each exchange will be as unique as every individual is. If we give more and expect the same, and it’s not reciprocal, we’re going to experience the loss, and if we deny that, try to justify it and still hold out in EXPECTATION of the same level of energy to be returned by the other person, our sense of self love will plummet. But it doesn’t make anyone bad. It’s a realization.

Discernment is key. What you feel safe to share with somebody, may not feel as sacred with someone else. Your sense of self honour and honour of others, as well as the honour you receive from others will be your indicator as to what level you will co-create with another person, group or mass of people. And to what degree you feel safe, loved and honoured co-creating worlds. Only you can assess that internally, based on your value system, to know if you feel safe, loved and honored. This is how we can bring the sacred part of ourselves into the world and feel received and held by it.

Maurice Katting is a Massage Therapist, Reiki Practitioner and Vibrational Healer based in Melbourne, Australia

You can connect with him at http://thedisconnecthealingspace.com

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Timelines

Our collective understanding of how we proceed with our day to day routine is being challenged. What we are being shown is how to cultivate greater flexibility in often peak periods of, shall we call it, energetic and time line flux. This is affecting our need to control and maintain order. The growth is in allowing ourselves to remain grounded within sudden changes. The more we hold onto ideas of how things should manifest the more we feel thrown off course by changes in our plans. The trick is to program your intent based on the essence of what you wish to manifest, then allow yourself to flow between switching timelines and courses of action as they occur. It requires an emotional detachment to the “hows” and “whys” and more of a centredness within the change as it is occurring. We tantrum when we are inflexible in this understanding of the new way of manifesting.

There’s “the plan” and then there’s the spontaneity of occurrence which plays out day to day. Fear and overwhelm keeps us in resistance of this natural progression. Timeline switching and energy flux is becoming the norm in our day to day reality, which is why we feel so thrown by the apparent chaos. It is teaching us to trust our ability to manifest moment by moment by focusing our intent on the essence of what we feel we wish to create, as opposed to attachment on the form it arrives in. It is shaking up our linear and dualistic approach to creation. This opens us up to higher dimensional energy when we can “trust the flow”. We have to trust that we are getting what we asked for from a soul level, “the growth”, as opposed to the personality ego level, which in truth really doesn’t know itself. It knows its lack and limitation as opposed to its infinite-ness. The ego self goes into the fear that it can’t achieve everything it wants if events don’t align with the plan, which is usually perceived in a linear time line; one event neatly and swiftly lining up after another. We are being called to remain open to our ability to create simultaneously and to release our expectation of the way manifestation will unfold. It’s a completely different mindset to what we have traditionally been taught about creation. But the old ways are slower, limiting and stressful. They require more effort and challenge us when we are living in a time of total timeline flux, clearing and reintegration.

 

 

 

The way forward is to “pack light” energetically. Anything that keeps you too bogged down to be able to remain in your flexibility needs to be reassessed, whether it’s work, relationships or your physical location. We need to stay open to the possibilities that change brings, and not use our thoughts to continue programming and assessing what we project our outcomes to be based on previous expectation of what we thought was possible. As well as this, the more open we can remain the more we can hear our guidance, which gives us the best advice on our moment to moment course of action, this being based on what we’ve intended we’d like to occur if it’s in alignment with our higher self. A huuuuge part of this process is NOT JUDGING OURSELVES based on where we perceive ourselves to be in our current progression.

The grumpiness, the stress and fixation we see in the world is the attachment to the outcomes not playing out in a linear timeline of expectation. Road rage is such a clear example of this. The lack of patience caused by mistrust of not being able to manifest within the linear limitation of time and space, ie (“there’s only so many hours in the day”) and the added stress this places upon us to meet those expectations. It also connects to a cultural belief system based on fear of the lack of resources. Again all of this is linear and dual based thinking.

The new paradigm will be a complete revolution in our understanding of how to trust that our needs are being met, and that we can adapt easily to the quickening rate of change and evolution moment by moment through our openings, flexibility and centred reassurance that everything is in divine order.

Our resistance to this new way of manifesting also relates back to the lower chakras . Our need for control connects with feeling safe and trusting that we are grounded within surges of change (the root chakra), openness and flowing in our expression and the way that we create, allowing our worlds to overlap instead of burning up energy in the control of how our expression is received (the sacral chakra), feeling empowered within ourselves and knowing who we are regardless of what challenges are thrown our way (the solar plexus).

Interestingly enough, a lot of the kids coming up already get this stuff innately. They don’t have the prior conditioning in our linearity, so their understanding of creation and remaining open to different timelines is unfiltered. This also allows them greater access to source information. Hence the “indigos” or “crystal kids” will assimilate information and take action a lot faster than those who take more time to integrate these changes. This is not to discredit previous generations, as they have energetically been paving the way for this new generation to come in and create change, freed up from karmic limitations that have been passed down for generations.

What we are experiencing now is almost “do or die” in terms of being challenged to very quickly release that which no longer works and move forward. It is like rocket fuel. It’s initiating a totality of change. The release of lag-time or buffering between thought, intent, word and manifestation means that whatever doesn’t serve us and is lurking in the subconscious is manifest and felt / recognised now in way which can’t be avoided or ignored. There is no space or lag to avoid it. The instant manifestation of what we don’t want forces us to look at how we have been creating and what we need to rectify. The “survival” is learning how to ride these tidal waves of self initiated change as they arise. To breathe, integrate and keep going.

 

 

Maurice Katting is a Massage Therapist, Reiki Practitioner and Vibrational Healer based in Melbourne, Australia

You can connect with him at http://thedisconnecthealingspace.com