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Broken hearts and going a little dark

If love and the expression of love in connection with others puts us, and keeps us on a natural high, then surely the extraction from this connection can equate to the experience of withdrawal from the source of that connection to love, and the embodiment of that love.

What makes the spirit resonate towards the darkness when in heartbreak? When we sit inside our darkness and we are not in a space mentally, emotionally or physically to generate that light source through the heart, it becomes a space of apathy and resignation, because there is not enough will to kick start the motor. For whatever reason, we are beyond “switching it back on”.

If love and the connection to source, through heart space which can be generated through intimacy and love with another, can bring someone “back to life” from years of apathy, jadedness to love or distrust and lack of faith in it, then the “drop off” after the relationship is gone can put one right back where they were before, back to the dark, and back to the apathy, because the break up can be read as the proof of all the belief systems and emotional responses that kept that person in the dark for whatever time period previous. The “let down” reinforces the jadedness and the dark is familiar

“Hello darkness my old friend.”

Which mode of operation then becomes a familiar outlet for the containment of that darkness? Which addiction? Which distraction? What do we begin to avoid? Where do we shut the windows so too much light doesn’t come in? And at what point did we hit that wall without realizing it? Where pain became too great and there was no outlet to express or transmute it. And therefore the light either switched off or someone turned the dimmer down. For those without the reference points of how to process and move beyond their pain, a broken heart can be the excuse and the driving force to make sure one is always looking outward and stops looking inward.

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So we decide consciously or unconsciously to indulge our broken heart. To indulge our beliefs and therefore our responses to those beliefs that move us towards our darkness and the darkening of our state in different ways. If we’ve been playing this cycle since childhood, we’ll already have an idea of how we like to express our darkness. If we’re not channeling our energy towards creation then more likely we’re moving it towards destruction or a form of contained anarchy in defiance of the absence of love and our love. Positive creative expression becomes pained because it requires an acknowledgement of heart energy and if we’re not willing to go there then our creative energy is exercised for more base indulgence and lower energetic payoff through either the sacral / heart (physical indulgence / emotional compensation) or the third eye (non physical indulgence / escaping realities) .

Depending on whether we prefer to dull our creative energy through physical or non physical indulgence we will then tend to attract others who express their creative energies in similar ways and reinforce each other’s behavior patterns. There is no external reference to “tow the line” or be the example of the desire to raise creative energy back into the heart space. People in this cycle prefer to be around those like minded individuals, where acknowledgement of brokenness is not required, and the denial is protected. The escape behavior is shared and we have a “partner in crime”. Allowing for none in the group to have to recognize their behavior or be called out on it. Denial becomes the great enabler.

The length of time we choose to remain in the darkness can be equated to how much damage has been inflicted on us. If the darkness is the cave we return to where we don’t allow distraction to block us from the acknowledgement of the recovery we are in, then we have the opportunity to use our time in darkness well, for our full benefit, taking our time to process the damage taken as we slowly readjust to taking in more light again. In this sense we can use the darkness we put ourselves in to heal before reemergence.

The problem however, lies in the lack of inclination to come out the other side. The avoidance of process, and the blocks mentally, emotionally and spiritually from the willingness to reach deeper levels. This could also be equivalent to captivity in the underworld. If we sink into apathy it requires greater will to pull ourselves up out of it, and the remembrance that we weren’t waiting for someone else to do the rescuing. The longer we remain in the apathy of the darkness, the more cemented our belief system becomes around our inability to get back out of the dark again. The belief that “it’s too late” can begin to set. With a host of other beliefs built around a framework of despair.

Ultimately the reasoning that drives us to switch the light back on is will. Will requires a degree of faith. That argument can appease the mind that will seek purpose and a valid point to come out of the dark in its existential crisis. The mind needs something, a strong enough point, to be willing to move back into the light when it knows it’s gonna sting a little, when it knows the emotional body will work through catharsis with the reintroduction of the light. Will power is not enough to run by mental strength alone, but a handing over to a greater belief, trust and reason for living. This then transmutes back into will to live, willingness to heal, willingness to continue, willingness to grow, willingness to evolve, willingness to ascend, willingness to transmute the darkness of the original victim wounds. And that will comes from a willingness to trust the healing that comes from love and that a source of love is still available, post the disconnection from a relationship. That the love can be found again and connected to in many other ways, and not in the fear of losing it again, but the trust that we are always receiving it if we are willing to feel into that reception in the heart space. Regardless of whether or not another individual is there to give it directly from them to us.

 

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Maurice Katting is a Massage Therapist, Reiki Practitioner and Shamanic Healer based in Melbourne, Australia

You can connect with him at http://thedisconnecthealingspace.com

If you choose to stay in the fear…

When you walk down the street and notice the faces of the people, what expression are they holding? Do they look light or heavy? Are they all in the midst of struggle and suffering? Their own personal worry scenario? That’s absolutely real to them?

If you could jump in to their minds and hear their thoughts and their stories you could experience what they are going through. As an observer you could have compassion for them and their situation. And yet objectively if you analyzed their story and could hear their logic, how much of it would you agree is “reality” or “perception”?

If you actually had this ability to jump into peoples’ minds and see the scenarios that they are creating, and then jumped back into your own mind, would you be able to apply the same objectivity? Could you look at your experience and be able to identify where your perception was creating your reality? And potentially a reality you don’t want to experience?

How much are we all just in the story for the majority of the time? Are we just continually buying into it because we simply haven’t identified where our perception has become our reality?

If love is letting go of fear, then is it also about letting go of form? The forms of control and expectation of how things should be? Is your fear boring, but mine so much more interesting? And for how long do we want to entertain fear until we get bored with it? Or do we just keep looking for fears and reasons to fear to distract our entire lives with?

If you choose to stay in the fear, you will keep finding proof to justify your fear. If you choose to drop the fear you will develop faith. The sense that even if your life feels strewn about by forces beyond your control, the way you can feel about your situation can still remain within your control. This is when your will and solar plexus energy become solid. It’s the “knowing thyself.”

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When there is chaos around you, in people’s lives, friends, family, people you love, by all means support them and assist. But if they are stuck looking at the door that has closed on them, simply remind them to notice the window of opportunity that has opened. Be aware that if we adopt rescue mode, we can easily start to adopt their story as our own. If rescue is needed, so be it. Rescue. Assist. Create change. Be change. But what kind of world do you choose to believe in? The fear, struggle, duality and incapability of the human race? Or the potential for all people to become sovereign and self empowered? You can play your part within this world without having to identify with it, and continuously hold what people are calling “the new earth” consciousness. And there is no “spiritual bypassing” in doing this. You can still be here on this planet, in the thick of it, helping and sharing and giving back. But you don’t have to buy into the chaos around you. If you can hold onto the belief that we have the collective potential to create the world that we want, then you can remain the “active observer”.

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Maurice Katting is a Massage Therapist, Reiki Practitioner and Vibrational Healer based in Melbourne, Australia

You can connect with him at http://thedisconnecthealingspace.com